My kid has been completely potty trained for over 6months and NOW he starts having accidents and
intentionally peeing in his undies!! Suggestions??
Well, I just recently dealt with this in my own house.
I later found out that my 3 year old had a bladder infection, so after some AZO and Cranberry Juice we
cleared up the bladder infection and moved on.
Here's how I did it!
I basically re-trained my daughter, and you can too! (for your son)
- Validate your child. Tell him and show him you know he can do it!
- Be consistent. Make sure that you continue the "potty training methods" you used before.
- Positive Reinforcement. Stickers, Jelly Beans, etc. - For staying dry
- Stop Negative Attention. This was hard, because you are frustrated - but it is important to only give positive attention. If they wet, just clean it up and move on.
- Remind Often.Don't ask them if they need to go, remind them to go. They will say no if you ask! :)
- Hold them Accountable. If they mess their pants, they need to clean it up. Not as a punishment, but to help. It reminds them how much work it is to be messy.
- Be consistent. This truly is the most important thing, that is why its on here twice!
- Keep it Short. Don't lecture about the accidents. The kids are little and lose attention quickly. Just remind them how awesome it is to be a big kid and to be potty trained and leave it at that. Lecture to a 3 year old = in trouble. Keep up the Praise on the staying dry!
- Do not turn this into a disciplinary matter, because it's not one. It is just part of being a toddler.
Please remember to not freak out and I beg of you...do not put them back in diapers!!!
Remember this is a process, sometimes we need to reboot and start again.
Experts identify the following reasons for regression:
- stress (new sibling, divorce, move, new school, any change in schedule)
- medical reasons
- natural regression that occurs with the mastery of a any new skill
- ignoring the body’s message
Emily Geizir from Parenting Solutions wrote this perfectly:
"Keep in mind that recently trained children need reminders to go to the bathroom. This is how you can help your child to feel successful. Help her get to the bathroom on time.
Do not take “no” for an answer if you feel it has been too long between bathroom breaks. Honor what the child is focused on at the time, while also imparting the importance of listening to one’s own body (an important life message). For example (please extrapolate to your own circumstance), “I see that you are very focused on your activity, but it is time to take a break to sit on the toilet and then you can return to your activity.” This is not a question. This does not need an apology. This is a directive. Directives can be said in loving and assertive ways.
Your child will be inspired by your renewed faith in her abilities. Maximize this momentum!"
I couldn't agree more!
Good Luck, and if you need more help, please email me! Or leave a comment and we all can talk it out together!
Good Luck, and if you need more help, please email me! Or leave a comment and we all can talk it out together!
Awesome, its like you read my mind!
ReplyDeleteGreat tips! With the birth of our second child and so much excitement from family being town for the new baby and a family reunion, my 2.5 year old was regressing as well. I figured it was time to go back to the basics. Retrain your child just like you did initially and they'll figure it out again. It only took 1 day of "re-training" for us and we've been accident free for a week after having 2-3 accidents every day for a month. It's so nice not having to clean up pee accidents in restaurants. That was awful!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the great tips! Can't wait to put them to use.
ReplyDeleteHmm maybe you're the one to ask! We have been trying for over a year to potty train successfully over night. We started potting training at 18 mos which was a huge mistake and later found out it she used it as her power move.
ReplyDeleteShe is 3 now. We have tried limiting liquids, waking up at night, just underwear, pull-up, underwear with rubber lining... And sorry for a second comment,I couldn't get it to let me add letters, please super mom (and pervious college roomie... Any special help for that association...hehe). Love you Valerie
ReplyDeletePs it's carrie, not sure if you'll recognize the last name