#5 Be consistent.
If after a week of constant accidents. Take a break and try again later.
There is no perfect time to be potty trained. If it isn't working or you feel defeated. Stop.
Try again in a few weeks.
Maybe the break will give them the time to let it soak in. You might be surprised that after the "break" they will be the ones who start initiating potty talk and potty time.
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I am so lost with the potty training and my 2.9 year old son. I got him a potty at 18 months just so he would be comfortable with the idea. He can go potty by himself (when he wants). It is hard to get him to go consistantly. sometimes he wants to go on his own, sometimes he will go is I ask him or take him, other times he throws a fit. We have tried special potty candy and it does NOT help. ALso at night he seems to leak almost everynight I think part of that is the explorer in him if you catch my drift. Should I just let him drag his feet? or should I help push him along?
ReplyDeleteBoys can be tricky especially since they seem to carry the stubborn gene unlike us girls. :P
ReplyDeleteIf it were me I would ask him if he wants to wear underwear or diapers.
If he says Underwear then you tell him the rules of the underwear. Let him know that people like Daddy, Mommy, whoever else you know who wears underwear knows the rules of the underwear. Does he see Daddy have accidents? no.
If he wants to join the underwear club he needs to follow the rules. I would probably make a badge and have him wear it for awhile, so he can be proud to belong to the Underwear club.
If he chooses diapers then he isn't ready or willing to go the distance...and that's okay. I would not make a big deal about it and revisit it in a month or two.
Its not worth the fight. The fights are a tell that he doesn't want to do it and that he might just like the fight. If you drop it - YOU win because he will be the one to let you know and he might be the one to initiate next time.
Hope that helps and let me know how it goes! :)
DON'T PUSH. :) Seriously, my sister pushed her son to potty train, and he didn't get it until he was 4. And it was bad--my parents would get frustrated and "shame" him when he had an accident, and that's the exact opposite of what you're supposed to do. When I read a couple potty training books, I felt so bad for my nephew, but we didn't know better.
ReplyDeleteWith my son, who's 2 years younger, we tried a more laid back approach. We talked it up, and made a huge deal right before his 3rd birthday, telling him he is getting SO! BIG! and will GET to potty train when he's THREE!!! Then, to keep things rolling, we promised him "monies", as his piggy bank is a huge motivator. I told him I'd give him 10 pennies at the end of the day if he stayed in his underwear all day, and a penny for every time he peed, and 5 when he pooped.
On days when he was insistent on having a diaper, and no amount of persuasion would convince him otherwise, I'd just let him wear a diaper.
He turned 3 in January, and he's fully potty-trained now. It wasn't traumatic for him OR us, lol. My best advice, though, is if you're getting frustrated, just take a break from potty training, and when you change a poopy butt, and it's a little red, and he's crying (mine have VERY sensitive skin, so the second they poop they seem to get red), tell him in a cheery voice that when he poops on the potty, he doesn't get a sore butt.
New problem developed today... He took his wet diaper off pooped on the floor and smeared it around. Then he put his pants back on. I have taken a break from pushing him to go potty and will just throw the idea out there sometimes. I couldn't believe that he did that today though.
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